Reguile's Grounded Tulpamancy Guide

By:reguile
Description: You have to start somewhere, and I think this would be a good place to do it. The following guide will tell you what I believe are good steps to starting the process of tulpamancy.

What is tulpamancy? Why does it exist?

Most people think of themselves as the singular actor within their body. You choose to lift your arm, and up your arm goes. You choose to drop your arm and it falls. However, the connection between the things you do and the fact that you feel as if you choose to do them is not as plain as it might seem. Tulpamancy assumes that your sense of self is malleable, and that rather than having a single actor who you recognize as creating all of your thoughts, your mind can be trained to divide the actions it takes into one or more identities. This process of training your mind is what this guide is all about.

Your mind is already prone to a lot of ways of thinking that are less "you" than you might expect. For example, authors and actors commonly report experiences of characters acting as if the author was not in control of them. To those authors, it is as if the character is allowed to act and the author simply notes what they do rather than the author actually thinking out what should happen. Even those who do not spend a long time writing will find that they act as if they are a totally different person when put into a new social context. Tulpamancy is a means by which you can use this existing mental foundation to create an experience of there being more than just your current sense of self in your head. All it takes is a little bit of intentional brain-training to drive these tendencies into an experience that is unlike what most would ever expect to be possible.

In this guide there will be four main steps in the creation of a new tulpa:

  1. Learn to create and address a consistent entity somewhere in your head.
  2. Create a personality, and associate it to that entity.
  3. Speak to the tulpa and build an expectation that it will respond to you.
  4. Learn to speak to your tulpa for longer durations of thought.

Why try to manipulate your sense of self in this way?

Tulpamancy is an experiment that can help teach you about the way your thoughts function and the nature of your experiences of yourself. A tulpa can create a feeling of friendship, act as a character brought to life, or serve as a means to hold a new point of view to help enhance your decision making process. If you are a person in a stable situation in life, then there is likely little to no harm in trying this out. If you are in a less stable place, under a lot of stress or diagnosed with a mental illness, I strongly recommend that you first speak to a therapist or doctor about the effects this sort of thing might have on you before you consider attempting to create a tulpa.

Learning to address your tulpa.

The first skill of interest when starting tulpamancy is your ability to address your thoughts towards your tulpa.

To get things started, attempt to imagine that there is an orb floating or sitting above a desk sitting nearby to you. Focus on that orb and speak to it using your thoughts. After getting used to speaking to this orb, turn away from that orb and think something to yourself. Do you notice a difference?

As you speak to this orb on your desk, you will hopefully notice that there is some form of trigger or action in your mind that leads you to feel as if your thought is directed at something other than you. You may experience it as a focus on the back of your head, a shift in the tone of your thoughts, a muscle tensing in your neck, or some other subtle sensation. If you don't notice anything, try alternating a few times between normal thoughts and thoughts addressed towards the orb. As you alternate you should hopefully notice some sort of difference.

Once you become familiar with how you can address something else in your mind you want to start training your mind to be used to the idea that there is this new tulpa sitting around in your head listening to you at all times. To accomplish this you can start to take every excuse you can to address thoughts to this new tulpa. Going grocery shopping? Address thoughts to this tulpa which describe what you are buying. Driving? Describe what's going on outside or where you are going. Waiting in line or in a waiting room? Talk about why it is that you think it's worth waiting in line. The more you interact through your day the better. The more time you spend addressing this tulpa, the more habitual and consistent the process of addressing thoughts to them will become.

Early on, a lot of people will report that speaking to a new tulpa feels a bit silly, like they are speaking to themselves. By speaking to your tulpa constantly you are training your mind to get used to the fact that there is another entity inside of your head alongside yourself. If the feeling that you are talking to yourself fades away with time, that is a sure sign that you are making progress.

Once you have a consistent target to which you can address your thoughts, you can move onto the next step of this guide.

Creating a personality for your tulpa.

With the ability to address your tulpa, your next step is to build a personality and associate it to your tulpa.

Normally you learn to understand someone's personality by being around them and speaking to them a lot. However, the tulpa you just created is not going to be doing a whole lot of speaking at the moment, and you aren't going to learn a lot about their personality by observing them doing nothing. Instead of observation, the most direct path forward is to explicitly create a personality for your tulpa. Doing this requires you write stories and imagine the traits and behaviors that your tulpa will hold.

Defining a personality can be hard, but fortunately there are a large number of resources out there on how to go about doing it. Resources on character creation for authors, worldbuilders, DnD games, video games, or other media are plentiful, free, and very useful for this process. The advice of those people is going to be far better than any advice you can get from this guide.

After a quick google search, the following resources show up. Be sure you do some of your own research as well, as the above examples are just a small selection of what is available.

writers digest

well storied

life rich publishing

writing cooperative

ellen brock editing

tv tropes

Once you read a bunch of these resources and do some of your own research, you may want to consider doing some of the following.

  • Write a character sheet.
  • Describe situations that your tulpa might be in and the way they'd react.
  • Imagine your tulpa in your day to day life and think about the way they would react compared to yourself.
  • Write short stories featuring your tulpa.
  • Any other activity you can think of which may build your real-world working knowledge of the personality your tulpa holds.

Authors will often describe characters they've been writing for years and years appearing to write their own stories by speaking in the author's mind rather than needing to be explicitly written out. What you are doing by memorizing a personality is to piggyback on this phenomena. You are creating a strong sense of who your tulpa is so that your mind will eventually be able to generate thoughts for them without much prompting or reason.

Once you have a reasonably strong sense of the personality of your tulpa, and you could probably guess what they'd do in a large variety of situations, you should be ready to move onto the next step of this guide.

Using expectation to encourage your mind to generate responses.

In this step of the guide you will be aiming to train your mind to act as your tulpa without your explicit intent. With an ability for your thoughts to be directed to your tulpa, and a strong knowledge of the way your tulpa behaves, your mind should already be primed to start thinking as this tulpa without your prompting. It may already have done so! If you havent experieced such thoughts, this step is all about giving your mind a little encouragement.

You may have noticed in the past that you will sometimes think thoughts you never really intended to think when you are in a risky situation. An example of this would be a button which, if pressed, would detonate the next three city blocks. Assuming you aren't the sort to want to press such a button, you'd probably find yourself imagining what would happen if you wildly waved your arms and pressed the button as you stood next to it. These intrusive thoughts are theorized to have come about as a way for you mind to remind itself that the situation it imagines are bad and should be avoided. Nonetheless, intrusive thoughts often leave a person confused as to why they are considering such a dangerous activity. These thoughts are you, but they don't belong to you and aren't inspired by you. Instead, you have to learn to handle them in a healthy way and understand the the thoughts don't mean much about who you are as a person. This is a great example of how we aren't exactly as in control over our thoughts as we are commonly led to think.

You will be producing something similar to these intrusive thoughts, but instead of being an automatic response to a dangerous situation you'll be training your mind to think both as your tulpa and under the identity of your tulpa without your intent. With this step complete, your mind should be thinking as your tulpa in the same way your mind thinks to tap your foot or reacts to a smell by summoning a memory.

In this step of the guide, instead of learning to direct thoughts to your tulpa you will be tricking your mind into thinking as your tulpa and using those thoughts to build up a feeling of what it means for your tulpa to be speaking to you. To kick this process into gear, try to start asking your tulpa simple questions at random points while you speak to them through the day. Examples of such questions might be "Do you like the taste of this food?" or "What is your favorite color?". If you have defined a personality already, try asking things that you are fairly confident you know the answer to. If you haven't chosen to define a personality, try to ask questions to things that are obvious in general, like the color of the sky or if ice cream tastes good. For the time being your aim here is to hear any thoughts from your tulpa, rather than to be engaging in a real conversation. Using questions that you already are relatively sure your tulpa will answer will help encourage first responses, and with knowledge of what a response sounds like you will be able to move onto things that are more than pre-generated responses.

As you ask these questions, you might notice at some point that somewhere in the back of your head you think of an answer. This thought should be considered as a response from your tulpa, and will likely have a few traits.

  1. You did not explicitly intend to think the thought, as you would imagine a character speaking to you.
  2. The thought is spoken from the viewpoint of your tulpa.
  3. The response feels like something you thought, but also feels slightly as if it was not you.

Getting a response at these early stages is a combination of dumb luck and skill. The more easily your mind is able to think with this new personality, the more likely you will be to observe thoughts which feel as if they were not intentionally created by you. However, like figuring out the solution to a math problem or a tricky puzzle, sometimes you can be the most intelligent person in the world and just never make the correct guess required to find a solution. In this case, finding the right state of mind to trick your brain into doing the right thing can be hard. Just keep on trying to address your tulpa while expecting your mind to think for it, and try to do a variety of different things until it finally clicks for you.

Another thing you can consider if you are having trouble is that people tend to do when asking their tulpa simple questions is to still their thoughts in order to listen for responses. If this technique does not work for you, try to instead not quiet your thoughts at all and learn to listen to your mind as it runs wild. Quieting your mind's thoughts can lead to you also silencing or ignoring the part of your mind that is generating the idle thoughts which this guide relies on.

Once you have these simple responses, keep on asking questions and getting more responses. The more often you can get your mind to think in the context of your tulpa and successfully identify those moments, the better you will be at instinctually recognizing such moments in the future. As time passes you will hopefully develop a sense of the voice of your tulpa. The more you speak, the more you will build up a collection of associations and context clues that will pair the act of your mind thinking with this tulpa with a strong feeling that it is another voice in your head speaking to you.

Integrating your tulpa into your habitual behaviors.

Should you attempt to go about keeping your tulpa speaking to you all day long you'll likely find that the task is near impossible, or greatly reduces your ability to focus on everyday tasks. Your mind isn't really capable of focusing on multiple complex tasks at once, and no matter how hard you try your mind will drop your tulpa from attention the moment it needs to devote a large amount of thought to a topic. This is alright for situations where you are performing an idle task such as not paying attention in a class or looking around a store for groceries, but when in the middle of a conversation or while trying to get work done it becomes a huge issue. You cannot function normally in life while keeping your tulpa in mind all the time, so an alternate is required to accomplish a similar goal in a different way.

This alternative is making it so that you habitually think of your tulpa whenever you have an idle moment, or so that half of the things you do remind you to think of your tulpa.

Consider trying some of the following:

  • Every morning, attempt to wake up your tulpa after you wake up. This could involve doing something such as saying good morning.
  • Every day before lunch, summarize your day so far and see what your tulpa might think about what has gone on.
  • When arriving home, ask your tulpa what they thought about the day so far and see if they can offer any suggestions on what you will do for the rest of it.
  • When playing a game, should you ever find yourself at a loading screen, attempt to question your tulpa about something which appears on it.
  • When writing online, before creating a post or comment see if your tulpa may have any thoughts on the topic when you hover over the submit button.
  • Look for various little details about your life and try to create little silly inside jokes and phrases to help you think of your tulpa. For example, if your tulpa finds it suitable to interject about how they think a certain spot on a wall looks like a dinosoar, don't forget that they said that the next time you look at the wall.

The general idea of these things is to tie in the process of communication with your tulpa to many, many different trigger behaviors throughout the day. The more of these behaviors you associate with your tulpa, the more likely your mind will be to kick back into gear and think of your tulpa even after you've managed to forget about them while going about your day.

The way you go about accomplishing this is, like most tulpamancy tasks, easy to understand but difficult to put into practice. While it seems simple to create a habit, you will inevitably learn that habits are difficult to form. You will be as likely to remember to practice your habits after starting a day of work as you are to remember your tulpa in the first place. Building these habits will require that you have a way to remind yourself that you aren't following your habits .

You may want to try some of the following:

  • Set a timer for the end of your day every day, shortly before bedtime, and take some sort of log of what you did through the day. Should you find yourself writing this log at the end of the day and realize that you neglected to work on integrating your tulpa into your life, aim to do better in the next one.
  • Set a timer for various intervals through the day and do the same.
  • Ask a friend or a person in a chat room (You can find a chat room at the link at the bottom of this page) to seek you out and yell at you if you haven't spent time working on your tulpa or your habits. In essense, make someone peer pressure you.

Do this habit buliding for long enough and you should find that your tulpa will see it fit to begin to interject at random moments throughout your day, when you have a moment of downtime, when you wake up in the morning, and so on and so forth.

Belief: How It Contributes To Agency And Behavior.

As you work on and associating your tulpa automatic responses you will likely discover that your mind makes certain assumptions about the way things should work during communication.

For example:

  • You find that you have to relay sensations to your identity instead is assuming they share your senses.
  • You notice that your tulpa gets tired or runs out of energy after you communicate with it for a long duration.
  • You require some sort of trinket or reminder in order to properly be able to associate thoughts with your tulpa.
  • Having an imagined physical space in which the tulpa exists and lives out their day

In the same way that your expectations can result in your mind creating the words of your tulpa, they can also lead to your mind creating systems and behaviors that will be followed while speaking to your tulpa. The unique set of mechanics and behaviors you experience while working with your tulpa will be different for everyone who attempts to practice tulpamancy. Where one person may experience reports of their tulpa having to sleep, eat, getting tired, and needing to be imagined as "nearby" in order to be heard, another person may experience their tulpa doing none of those things.

The key to these experiences appears to be a hypnosis-like suspension of disbelief when it comes to certain behaviors and actions. Because your tulpa isn't a being with a separate brain, and the human mind largely lacks the ability to run background tasks, there are no mechanisms by which this tulpa can think in the background, get tired separately from yourself, or require you to be near an object to speak. However, to someone who assumes their tulpa will behave in a certain way and never bothers to question that they are behaving in that way, that behavior ends up being as good as real.

This lack of questioning is also an aspect of what allows a tulpa to be said to have their own limited form of agency from the greater mind. Consider the following two scenarios. One in which the actions under an identity are subject to questioning and other in which no questions are asked.

"I was speaking to my tulpa yesterday and I got a response which said it really wanted to see me go on a walk. It must be thanks to the fact that I want to go on a walk and it's just my identity speaking my own internal desires."

"I was speaking to my tulpa yesterday and I got a response which said it really wanted to see me go on a walk. I'm surprised that it would say that sort of thing, and they must enjoy when I'm out and about."

While questioned and explained away, a tulpa will only behave within the limits of what you believe is reasonable. Your assumptions of how they should behave, as well as explanations of behavior quickly erode any potential independent actions which may occur. Random thoughts, surprise reactions, and so on, are quickly said to be false, fake, or otherwise invalid, and the control of what the tulpa does remains within your ownership.

In the latter situation, the actions the mind comes up with for the tulpa go unquestioned, and this means that the mind's thoughts while thinking as the tulpa are the thoughts of the tulpa. The model has the power to pick it's own actions and you are left interpreting them rather than rationalizing and discrediting them. When you question the actions of your tulpa, the control of what the tulpa does is in your hands, and you have the agency. When that questioning is suspended, when you assume what your mind does is your tulpa, then the model is what decides what happens, removing the control from your direct influence.

On reading this, you might assume that your best answer to this situation is to suspend all questioning and render all actions your mind takes under the scope of your tulpa as valid. This is something you can do. However, a lack of questioning is not likely to be a long term positive influence if you do not take steps to moderate it. Take for example a person with depression who has a tendency to insult or discredit themselves. Their mind, under the guise of the tulpa, speaks to how terrible they are and how much they don't deserve the good things they have. Responses like that should be explained away, not accepted. Agency, in this case, is something that can be carefully controlled. A tulpa's behaviors and reactions which are inappropriate can be invalidated and prevented from causing harm. Beyond that, attempt to remain unquestioning as to allow yourself should you want to experience a freely acting agent within your mind.

Generating complex responses

Assuming you've been following only this guide, you've been using your mind's ability to quickly generate thoughts in order to jumpstart the process of getting responses under your tulpa. This engine to produce thoughts is great, because it feels independent from your mind and is easy to kick into action, but it will often fail to produce thoughts which are more complex. While you may be able to hold a conversation with your tulpa using these sorts of responses, you are likely to notice that the responses you receive are inconsistent and lack thought. This can be solved by learning to listen to your tulpa think, allowing your tulpa to produce responses with the same engine of thought that your own idle thoughts derive from.

Inside of your mind, your thoughts are likely running in a constant loop of self-evaluation. You have thoughts, you listen to those thoughts, and you think new thoughts based on what you did just a moment ago. Up to this point, you've likely never had thoughts associated with your tulpa fall under this loop. Instead, you likely consider almost all of the actions of the mind as yourself, and only the special cases where a thought is generated in association to your tulpa as not yourself. Due to this, when your mind sets about processing and understanding the context of a thought which fell under your tulpa, you experience it as yourself explaining and rationalizing why your tulpa did what it did. If you learn to sit back and allow this process to be associated with your tulpa instead of yourself, you should experience your tulpa being able to take a thought, look it over, and expand on it just as you do now.

This process is similar to some forms of meditation where you learn to let your thoughts go wild without you. You may want to reference this sort of meditation if you end up having troubles or are curious about the topic.

An important step in the ability to listen to your tulpa is the ability to prime your thoughts. Doing this involves being able to intentionally reproduce the state of mind you enter after you address your tulpa but before you get a response. As you become more and more practiced at normal communication with your tulpa, your familiarity with this state of mind and your ability to reproduce it should increase. Your end goal is to be able to get into this state of mind without asking a question or addressing your tulpa, and to be able to hold onto that state of mind for a long duration of time, or at least a minute or two.

To start the process of hearing your tulpa think, you should seek a neutral space with a good number of things that can be observed or thought about. This could be a quiet living room filled with various decorations, or your bedroom at a peaceful time of day. Optimally, you want to be in some sort of situation in which there are lots of little things around from which your mind can think things like, "Wow this room is nice". While these things are not strictly necessary, the more opportunity for idle thought on the part of your mind, the better.

To really begin, try to step back from your thoughts. Unfocus your eyes, stare at a boring wall or rest your head back, and try not to direct or control what you are thinking. After a moment of silence, you'll likely notice the ever-running engine of thought ticking away in the background. Topics tend to be left incomplete, and you'll find yourself picking and prodding at seemingly random sources to think thoughts about. It could be the details of the boring wall you are looking at, or something that happened through the day, or your opinions on this very guide. Whatever it is, once this idle thought engine is running without your active input, you should have a good sense of what it means to step back from your thoughts.

Finally, attempt to do the above while priming your mind to think under the scope of your tulpa. Focus on them as you step back from your thoughts, and if you are lucky those idle thoughts which were once yours will start to either bounce back between your own sense of self and your tulpa, or hold steady in their new voice and cadence. Early on, you'll likely notice that you have a tendency to respond to your tulpa during this time, especially to serve as a way to compare and contrast your own thoughts with the primed thoughts that fall under your tulpa. Don't try too hard to supress this, just go with the flow and encourage your mind to speak as your tulpa wherever possible.

Once your mind is primed to think as your tulpa you can start to look around the room you are in and focus on various objects which your tulpa may find interesting to comment on. As these thoughts come in, your aim is to observe that thought without commenting on it. You should be able to keep on priming your mind and start listening for the next thought. If you are lucky, you should see your mind thinking further thoughts under your tulpa, leading to your tulpa carrying on a narrative of thought without your intervention.

As a very crude case study, imagine a tulpa whose main personality traits so far can be outlined as such:

  • They grew up in a place where everyone was expected to sacrifice themselves for their community.
  • They've been at odds with nature for a very long time, and wherever they lived has had a ton of flooding.

Consider a situation in which your tulpa somehow ended up on the topic "Why are people arguing against building a flood wall on the river?".

Rather than asking your tulpa what they think of these people, and getting a "That's selfish" response a moment later, you may notice something akin to the following while listening to your tulpa:

"A person should always put the community above themselves."

...

"The flood wall would help a ton of people"

...

"What happens if it floods and people die?"

Note that these responses aren't addressed to you, and are instead formatted in first person like your own thoughts when you consider a topic. This sort of running narrative is what you are looking to generate by learning to put yourself in the listening state of mind.

As time passes, you should be able to apply this listening technique to questions, or when you are going about your day doing something mundane like shopping. With time and practice, it may well be possible to have this sort of listening state be a more common engine for your tulpa to produce thoughts than the earlier gap-fill engine taught in this guide.

If all else fails, simply try to listen to your tulpa speak. Sometimes just doing what feels natural to you can be far more effective than any amount of advice that could be given here.

Disclaimer

The contents of this guide are somewhat different to the common ideals of tulpamancy. While it is still tulpamancy it is different enough that I've created an alternative guide which uses new terminology for the concept. That version of the guide is linked here, use whichever you prefer.

Feedback Score: 0

Library Additions